Parents can speak powerful words….
Hey Moms and Dads……do you realize how powerful you are? Do you know what you can do with just a few words? This weekend my parents came to visit me and participated in a fundraiser for a charity I have been involved with for many years. I am well above the age of a “child”, but I will forever be my parent’s child. I realize that more and more the older my children become. While my parents were here, both of them looked me in the eye, gave me a hug and told me they were proud of me and the life I was living. My parents have told me that before, they have never withheld words of praise or love. However, that wonderful feeling flooded me when I heard those words again. Even at the age that I am (old!) I still am affected greatly by my parents telling me that they love me and are proud of me. I still feel my heart swell as they look at me and tell me that I am the woman they had hoped I would be.
There is much written now about self-esteem and being sure that our children are not dependent on our praise to feel good about themselves. However, I believe that in this world where there is often insecurity and a lack of sensitivity and compassion; that parents are responsible for pointing out to their children their unique gifts and expressing their pride in who their children are. We need our children to know that we like who they are; that we believe they are destined to do good in this world. I still am affected by those words my parents speak to me…so I will continue to celebrate my children, brag about them within their ear shot, and tell them often that I am proud of who they are and what they have accomplished and the good that I know they will bring to this world. I will do this because I know words of pride will strengthen their inner confidence, not hinder that development. I know that because my parents have done just that for me and continue to do it even today. Thanks, Mom and Dad….I am so proud of you too.
Take a breath, enjoy the joyful moments of each day, and remember you don’t have to be perfect to be the perfect parent.
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