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Category Archives: Discipline

What is in your discipline “bag of tricks”?


What is in your discipline bag of tricks? It was 7:30 am and my day was in full swing. I was chasing a two year old trying to get him dressed again. It is barely an hour into the day and I felt like I was on the verge of yelling and a time out …

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Does your child have “selective hearing”?


Selective hearing?  Yep, every kid has it! Selective hearing…every child has it, (some adults too!)  I can remember thinking one of my children in particular may have had a hearing deficit, but it only showed up sometimes!  Asking her to pick up her shoes resulted in a no response, but she could hear my husband …

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No child is perfect…and that is OK!


No parent or child is perfect…and that is OK! We had a wonderful weekend celebrating the marriage of my daughter’s childhood friend.  I always cherish having all four of my children at home at the same time!  As Monday morning arrives, and college and budding careers claim my children again, I find my thoughts in the familiar place of focusing on my …

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Raising an unspoiled child…how to strike that parenting balance


A spoiled child grows into an adult who feels entitled…how do you strike the balance between wants and needs as a parent? It is so difficult to see your child upset, disappointed, or wanting something that you don’t feel is necessary or maybe can’t afford. There were many days when I questioned whether we should …

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Are the “Magic Words” still important?


Why is it that so often when you want your child to be on his or her best behavior…the most embarrassing things happen?  (Remind me to write about my son when he was 2 1/2 and dinner with our parish priest…long story)  Simply, because children are not born with manners…and the development of manners is …

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The “how to” of the discipline process


As promised, we will talk about the approach I like to teach when I speak to parents about discipline.   Remember our mantra:  “Attention is attention to a child whether it is negative or positive, attention to a behavior reinforces it!”  And  “Consistency is the key.” A few pointers to start: 1.  Set realistic guidelines. Know …

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Add a little silliness to your discipline…it works!


A little “clowning around” with discipline will work!  Infuse a little silliness in your day!  🙂 All the discipline discussion over the last few days and I feel like a very serious parent!  Discipline is serious business, and a very real necessity for your child, but there certainly are moments that a little bit of …

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Your child said what??? Don’t pull out the soap….this works better…..


What do you do when your sweet child utters a four letter word??? There are few things more shocking than hearing the sweet voice of your child say a 4 letter word…in the correct context no less! It is not uncommon for parents to look at me with shocked eyes and whisper, “Do you know …

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Handling your child’s tantrum effectively and lovingly


Recently I was trying to DVR a program on TV.  I am told this is simple…but as I looked at the 4 remotes we have and tried to start the process I just couldn’t make the darn remote work.  I felt the frustration level inside me begin to get to the boiling point, I put …

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“Hurry up or I will leave without you!” and other discipline techniques that don’t work!


There are some discipline techniques that just don’t work as well as others! I can remember sometimes simply reacting to a behavior of one of my kids, but not really using a discipline approach.  The result was never very effective.  Some typical reactions just don’t work, or result in other issues later.  Here are some …

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