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Category Archives: Raising a child with character

What is in your discipline “bag of tricks”?


What is in your discipline bag of tricks? It was 7:30 am and my day was in full swing. I was chasing a two year old trying to get him dressed again. It is barely an hour into the day and I felt like I was on the verge of yelling and a time out …

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It is a New Year…New Beginnings for 2017


2017….What are your hopes for your family? Here it is the 3rd of January and I am just beginning to think about this New Year!  Our holiday season was filled to the brim with family, fun and wonderful memories.  The time certainly went quickly and suddenly it is the 3rd of January 2017!  There really …

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Celebrate Dad…he is very important!


  Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads who make such a difference in their kids’ lives!! Celebrate Dad this weekend…and celebrate BIG!  Dads have such an important role in families, and often we don’t recognize the importance.  Research tells us that both sons and daughters are better adjusted, more successful in school, build better …

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No child is perfect…and that is OK!


No parent or child is perfect…and that is OK! We had a wonderful weekend celebrating the marriage of my daughter’s childhood friend.  I always cherish having all four of my children at home at the same time!  As Monday morning arrives, and college and budding careers claim my children again, I find my thoughts in the familiar place of focusing on my …

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Your Child’s Disappointments are Life Lessons


I will never forget standing next to our oldest daughter as her and my eyes searched the list of names of who made the “A” basketball team.  Her 7th grade friends were on the list….but her name was not.  I saw her shoulders slump and the tears come.  My heart ached as I thought about …

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Raising an unspoiled child…how to strike that parenting balance


A spoiled child grows into an adult who feels entitled…how do you strike the balance between wants and needs as a parent? It is so difficult to see your child upset, disappointed, or wanting something that you don’t feel is necessary or maybe can’t afford. There were many days when I questioned whether we should …

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Are the “Magic Words” still important?


Why is it that so often when you want your child to be on his or her best behavior…the most embarrassing things happen?  (Remind me to write about my son when he was 2 1/2 and dinner with our parish priest…long story)  Simply, because children are not born with manners…and the development of manners is …

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The “how to” of the discipline process


As promised, we will talk about the approach I like to teach when I speak to parents about discipline.   Remember our mantra:  “Attention is attention to a child whether it is negative or positive, attention to a behavior reinforces it!”  And  “Consistency is the key.” A few pointers to start: 1.  Set realistic guidelines. Know …

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Add a little silliness to your discipline…it works!


A little “clowning around” with discipline will work!  Infuse a little silliness in your day!  🙂 All the discipline discussion over the last few days and I feel like a very serious parent!  Discipline is serious business, and a very real necessity for your child, but there certainly are moments that a little bit of …

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Your child said what??? Don’t pull out the soap….this works better…..


What do you do when your sweet child utters a four letter word??? There are few things more shocking than hearing the sweet voice of your child say a 4 letter word…in the correct context no less! It is not uncommon for parents to look at me with shocked eyes and whisper, “Do you know …

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